Let's have a little talk...

Alright guys. Let's have a talk. I am not for/against things because I heard someone talk about it, or because I read something on a blog and decided then and there, that I should believe what they say, just because I like the way it sounds. No. I think it is interesting and I go out and look for proof that there is truth the matter. I look at scientific studies,  both for and against the matter, I search out doctors opinions on the matter. With things that I am for against, like no vaxxing, against RIC (Routine Infant Circumcision), pro bed sharing and such, there are doctors opinions for and against it. With things that I have chosen, I feel the doctors that are on the sAmerican side I have chosen, are very passionate about their work, and they took the extra time to look into things that everyone else just does because that's what everyone else does. They explain benefits of the matters, or harms of the matters, and give scientific proof. It is not easy not going with the flow. It is hard and time consuming. Instead of just saying "okay, everyone else does this, so it must be right" you question things. You have a little idea that maybe something isn't right, and you research it. When I was a first time mom, I was not like this. I did what "professionals" said, the doctor, the parents as teachers teacher, nurses, anyone that was in a specialty. Because I thought everyone had the same information, and one pediatrician had all the information on their specialty. I found they were wrong a few years later when I started seeing posts on facebook about some friends being against this and that, things that I had been told were right. I ignored the first few and kept scrolling, when they kept posting things, I finally clicked on them, wondering what all the fuss was about. After reading that article, I would go to Google and type in that topic and read not just 1 other thing on the matyer, but many. Sometimes 2 or 3, and other times, I would keep searching it on and off all day. I don't just go with the first thing I read, I keep researching. When I see people bashing parents that are trying to inform, and saying they are wrong, it makes me pretty upset. The people that actually do research and are trying to share their findings with other people, other parents, and help thier kids, are being called names and yelled at, just by sharing their findings. If you don't agree with it, then leave their page or keep scrolling. You should do you own research and see what you find. Not just on what you have been taught, but on what you haven't been taught. Here's an example, maybe you've been taught that flipping an infants car seat to forward facing at 20lbs and 1 year is what everyone else does. Does that mean it's safe? In this matter, NO. There are crash test videos showing the damage caused to a child in an accident where the child was rear facing too soon. Many, Many stories of parents sharing their stories, wishing someone had told them that they were wrong for turning around their infants car seat too soon. In this matter, if I see a friend post a picture of their infant ff on facebook, I send them a private message that nicely explains that it is recommended that infants be rear facing till at least 2 now. And that there are car seats that rf then ff later. And tell them I did the same thing with my oldest. I turned him around forward facing at 1 year and 20 lbs and I thank the Lord all the time that I never got into an accident with him in the car with me. I try to inform them nicely, and attach links to websites with reccommendations, and videos on youtube making it very easy for them. This is one big one that it shouldn't be that hard of a decision, yet I fear the people I have spoken with about it don't care. They lie or shrug it off, and it makes me very sad for that child. And all I can do is hope and pray that that child is never in an accident. This is an easy one, at least, I feel it's the easiest to talk about to other people, easy to find things that are for it. Other things such as against cry it out, no solids before 6 months, or a year, leaving baby boys intact, those are hard. Because they have done the norm, people feel directly attacked and get defensive when other people are just trying to inform. One tging that particularly bothers me is a "friend" on facebook asked for some advice on something, and yes, there were a lot of comments saying that everyone else does the same thing, has the same problem. Then I commented and said "you shpuld look into __________" she replied, accused me of not reading her post all the way and that she does a small piece of what I suggested, every once in awhile. I told her that for what I was suggesting she look into, it's an all the time thing, not an every once in a while thing. She continued to say she is fine with what she is doing, that it works (after saying it doesn't work in her post and in other comments) I gave her some info, some drs that agreed with what I was saying, I was being informitive, not accusing or attacking at all in the beginning and she refused to take any information different than what she knew, what she was used to, what WASN'T working. It made her uncomfortable to think that maybe she had been wrong. I told her I had been wrong too and went with the flow, but I got informed and realized I was wrong, and I am working on changing it, as this particular thing is a process to change. What I am trying to say here is don't just shoot down something someone says because it's not what you know, what you've been taught. Take their information, read their information they give you, and do your own personal research. THEN make your decision. Most of the time, people like me try to nicely inform, and get attacked for no reason. This is one thing that makes this lifestyle hard. Another thing is when we strongly believe in something, and are firm on that decision, it makes us upset to see other parents making the same mistakes we have made, other parents rejecting to learn more for their children. It is hard enough being a parent as it is, don't put someone down for going out of their way to do research for the best for their children.